What Table?
What do you bring to the table?
We all have encountered this question whether it’s on social media or in a convo. It’s a question that seeks to evaluate a person’s value. But, does it add up to apply it in almost every situation?
This question has sense depending on the situation where it is used. It’s alright to analyze what someone has to contribute whether it’s in a discussion, growth of an organization, and so on.
But, in the context of a new relationship it doesn’t add up. First of all, there’s no table. These are just 2 people who have met and have a potential future ahead of them. What they are bringing is themselves.
It’s a materialistic question. A person’s value is not in what they have but who they are. Why are we always quick to evaluate what a potential mate has than put in the work to know them from a deeper perspective?
A strong relationship is not in what you are bringing but what you build together. The only table that exists is the table of possibilities. The chance to fall in love and work towards building this ‘table’. And what table are we talking about? Are we building a table or a life together? Real relationships are made by asking the question of who not what.
I’m bringing myself to this fictional table. What I have may not be there tomorrow but, I still remain the person. The caring, listening, empathetic, and loving being.
The statement love is a choice has never made more sense than when I was thinking about this article. This choice is usually based on who they are or what they have. And it is these two that define the strength of a bond. It’s the mentality we go into relationships with that defines everything.
